Sometimes time frame can’t determine relationship

Sometimes time frame can’t determine relationship. This expression seems doubtful for everyone, but it could be revealed here. Time frame here refers to the duration of time that two or more people make friends. This can be weeks, months, or years. Relationship regards as the link between people or friends. This could be close, not close, or normal. So why did I mention that?

Most people like making friends than enemy. They maybe don’t want to be isolated. However, not all do so. Some people prefer to be alone.  We usually know that the longer the relationship is, the closer it is. But it isn’t always true. Like what I mentioned, time frame can’t sometimes determine how close the relationship is between people or friends. Examples can be viewed from many friends of mine and myself. Most of my friends, classmates, and acquaintences consider friendship to be important for them. They think making friends provide them benefits than losses, and it isn’t beneficial to create enemy. Some of their friends are close to them, however some are not even they know those for long time before. This circumstance happens to everyone without preparation. Like me, I don’t know how to specify who my close friends are, who are normal, and who are not. When I think about duration of acquainting, it seems unclear, because even I know a friend for 2 or 3 years, still she/he doesn’t think I’m her/his close friend at all. Just regard as normal, and by case, her/his new friend, by just knowing for 1 year, is very close than I ever expect to be. Funnily, I don’t demand to be her/his close friend or get jealous of her/his new friends, hence I just recognize that it isn’t through time alone but other impacts, such as destination, communication, frequency of contract, and so on which are factors determinant the relationship. Maybe our characteristic is a bit distinct or maybe other factors, I don’t know. Maybe I’m more philosophy than practical as she/he is or maybe the difference between social status and rank. All are just the assumption, but it might be true in a point or more.

Whatever it is, I just don’t support that time frame alone can’t determine relationship through my evidences above, even if by case it is true. I just conclude on the fact and several cases faced me and many other people. Maybe readers may or may not support this argument. So you can provide further idea.

Love is friendship on fire

There’s been long that one states, “love is friendship on fire.” People may think it’s just a romance or talk by young couples. However, this could be applicableto most aspect of them, I think. For example, X and Y are friends for long time. X is a girl and Y is a boy. Their relationship progresses from acquaintance to friends and from friends to very close friends. They’re help each other and share a lot together during their friendship time. They dare say and express their own idea, feeling, thought, and personality.

Consequently, when they become lovers, their friendship seems reluctant, meaning that they’d lose their frienship. They start thinking about love and other further issues, in case this love is positive. But if this love is negative, hatret occurs or one side become afraid of another or one side starts to walk away from love zone. Positive or negative here refers that both of them love each other, and the negative refers to only one side love.

The example above reveal very small part of the case. On the other hand, one says reverse development from the “love is friendship on fire” that love could become friends at when there are some problems facing them. As I observed, including my friend’s girlfriend, she also said to my friend that he should just be her friend from now on without any reason other than boyfriend, while they used to be a love couple. Another friend of mine also faced the same problem. That’s why this came to me to find out.

Love is friendship on fire but I can’t say friendship is love on fire, because friendship is about love and care. However, I insist that to some points in the future of this love, there should be friend or friendship if this love is in obstacle. Is this an excuse of not being responsible?

To understand is to be understood

This expression sounds strange to me and everyone, I think. It may not gramatically correct for this short phrase. I however insist to write it down on this blog.

Our families or friends are surrounding. We always think and care about them at all means. For family case, we stay or were staying together from childhood until now, so it seems we’re getting used to the situation of being together so that it results in missing. However, it’s not always true for other reasons. One might be in hatred with his family life so that he’s out of control and wants to leave so far away from the family. For friend case, I think it’s much similar to the previous one. But the most important thing is understanding. Moreover, to make a good friendship is to understand each other. Friendship in this case refers to all sorts of cases, even it’s more developed than friendship to further stages. We should share each other everything including information, education, and what we possess. Sharing is not necessary in all cases because we may not want our partner to worry about our not good circumstances. That’s why it comes to hidden. In my idea, hidden is not trustworthy, on the other hand. The thing is we should discuss.

Moreover, more than friendship is love relationship. One says to love someone is easy, but to let someone loves us is difficult. Here performance is advantageous. Acting as a good person is not that difficult, but make sure that you’re good or not. Pretending that you’re qualified for someone is normal, hence you should mirror yourself. Showing that you’re concerning and thinking about someone is very hard because it requires times and resources to accomplish. In case we faced problem, we’d better discuss and talk because our partner’d never understood our troublesome, or he/she is not a fortune teller. Believe me, the best way is to talk and discuss rather than just ignore or sending messege.

The above all was just my small comprehension of understanding someone including family and friends. I just conclude with thinking about, sharing, discussing, and talking with, and learning from each other. Because those things are the answer to the defined questions.

Moving out tomorrow…

Oops! I’ll be moving out to new place tomorrow afternoon to where is a bit far from my university… I’ve found it’s even double cheaper in rental fee than the current place’s one, but everything is on my own liabilities… See you there at Takasago!

Updating blog

Today I spent almost four hours fooling around with internet blogs, just wanted to have fun after finish preparing to move out to new dormitory.
Besides, I’ve found out the faster trick to solve 4×4 rubik cube after I’ve done with the 3×3 one. My free time is not so meaningful at all…

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